There's a misconception about success that holds that you can succeed if you just put in enough effort at any activity. As a result, we have developed a society that values hard effort and have established "hustle culture" as a badge of pride.
What if there are other options? What if that isn't even the best course of action?
Contrary to common assumption, successful individuals aren't always the best in their profession. If you study any successful person, you'll immediately realize this.
They lack any intrinsic talent that may ensure their success. They often recruit professionals who are more knowledgeable in their industry than they are.
Understanding Your Innate TalentsSuccessful individuals have the amazing ability to chose and alter conditions to suit them, as opposed to attempting to adapt oneself to the environment. In other words, they rely on the fact that they are the best at what they do.
Some people define it as being so energetic and giddy during a sales presentation that the audience is compelled to join you in your enthusiasm. Others find that it involves speaking to their staff while looking them in the eyes and being willing to display emotion.
In actuality, we all already have a certain method that we rely on when we succeed. We've unconsciously developed this technique since it's effective and feels natural.
We only need to identify what it is.
Are You Just Climbing a Tree Like a Fish?In actuality, the majority of us are intentionally hindering our natural skills.
It's possible that you were raised in a home where being "too much" was discouraged. Schools may have taught you beyond your natural ability. Or your employer may just not know how to use them in your position.
Consider this assertion that Albert Einstein often (and erroneously) made:
"Everyone is brilliant. A fish, however, would spend its whole existence feeling that it is foolish if you assess it by its capacity to scale a tree.
A person with a lot of freedom and playfulness will have a hard time in a highly controlled business atmosphere. Just as much as a truly meticulous person would despise a relaxed, creative environment.
Being the greatest at everything is not the secret to success. Knowing precisely what your natural talents are and using them to your advantage are the keys to success.
Knowing your natural talents can help you discover your own recipe for success.
How Can I Access My Own Potential?We must first determine where inherent skills originate and how they relate to this nebulous concept known as "purpose" before we can comprehend what your natural powers are.
People often approach me and declare, "I've finally found out my purpose," thanks to the job I perform. I should pursue a career as a life coach, writer, or business owner. And that's wonderful.
The problem is that if you can succeed in achieving a goal, you can also fail at it. And it isn't really logical. What kind of failure is that?
Additionally, if you can accomplish a goal, it signifies that you previously lacked it. So, did you just lack a purpose when you were a baby? That also doesn't seem to make much sense.
You were born for a reason, of course. However, you lacked accomplishments. You lacked even the most basic aptitudes.
You just had sensitivity, that's all.
How Do Sensitivities Work?Every newborn in the world is sensitive to certain things, and each baby's sensitivity varies.
Some infants are very sensitive to human connection, and they like gazing into their mothers' eyes. These are the infants that need a bit extra holding. These individuals tend to be more sensitive to rejection or being left out as they become older because they are connection sensitive.
Because they are sensitive to what it's like to be excluded and have spent their whole lives developing the abilities of what they are sensitive to, they often make excellent networkers and hosts.
These individuals tend to naturally be more successful in all areas of their lives when they make a lot of eye contact, divulge intimate facts about their lives, and create a sense of closeness with others.
What about other infants, though? Some infants are susceptible to exhilaration. These are the infants who like being gently thrown in the air and given peek-a-boo surprises. As adolescents become older, they have a propensity to get quickly bored and look for the next thrill ride or experience.
They often have engaging public speaking skills and are quite animated in their interactions. And they are the kind that thrive while taking significant risks since they have spent a lifetime developing their thrill-seeking abilities.
Then there are the infants who are sensitive to all kinds of things, including safety and understanding as well as independence and vulnerability.
Being a life coach is not your calling; having a purpose is. You're sensitive to it, which is why life coaching seems so meaningful to you.
What we are most sensitive to gives rise to innate skills. You're going to have greater innate skills in that area if you've detected it more than everyone else—if you've seen, tasted, touched, smelled, or heard it more.
The subconscious actions you take to achieve success will become abundantly evident when you map your areas of greatest sensitivity. You'll also learn how to use your intrinsic talents for success.
How Can I Map My Sensitivities?It may seem difficult to identify your natural talents and call for lengthy leadership style exams or polls of friends and family.
But since you constantly perceive things, it's simple to identify what you're most sensitive to. It's just what you're experiencing right now.
Try this simple activity to identify your sensitivities, and after that, we'll discuss how to unleash your natural talents for achievement.
Exercise with SensitivitiesTake a piece of paper, and respond to the questions below. Only 5 to 10 minutes should be required for this activity.
Step 1List three occupations you've had throughout your life, along with three feelings you contributed to each one.
Say, for instance, if you were a teacher and you created an environment where pupils felt confident, secure, and interested in the subject matter.
Step 2Consider one of your most difficult experiences. Write down three feelings you had at the time and three that you wish you had.
Imagine if the day of your grandmother's passing left you feeling devastated, alone, and unsupported. You want a sense of affection, support, and connection.
Step 3Consider one of your most joyful experiences. Write down three feelings you had at that time.
As an example, imagine that the day of your wedding was filled with intimacy, playfulness, and success.
After responding to these brief questions, search for any terms that are repeated or quite similar. "Heard" and "understood," for instance, may be referring to the same thing. Or you could feel "intimate" and "attached" to someone.
Even in this brief, easy activity, our sensitivities become apparent in the patterns we experience the most. Check to see whether the recurring patterns may provide at least four or five distinct sensitivities.
Next, what?Here's where the fun starts, however. I want you to take a minute to reflect about a period when you were incredibly successful after you've identified what you're sensitive to.
Did you act in that manner without giving it any thought at the time?
Let's act as if a few of the sensitivities you noted are "understood" and "playful." Did you make the encounter enjoyable and entertaining while also assisting someone in feeling really understood as you reflect on that successful moment?
Most likely, you did.
It functions because it is a natural talent. You're more likely to fail at a project because it doesn't play to your strengths whenever you don't feel understood or fun or when you don't make others feel that way.
So, here are some success advice.
1. Before you begin any endeavor, clarifying questions are a good idea.
2. Be certain that everyone is in agreement.
3. Spend money on enjoyable team-building activities.
4. When you're stuck, introduce some music or dancing to the situation.
5. Game-ify brainstorming sessions.
You will be more successful if you can create environments in both your personal and professional lives that allow you to sense those sensitivities.
When something isn't working well, the reason why often becomes extremely clear. Simply go through your list of sensitivity to identify which intrinsic talent you're underutilizing, and then develop a plan to adjust the environment to emphasize that.
Feel Like You're Having Coffee With Your Best FriendOver the last ten years, I've assisted hundreds of individuals in discovering their intrinsic talents, and I can attest that even this simple explanation can be completely life-changing because it clarifies why something worked out or didn't work out for you and what you can do about it.
Your chances of success skyrocket if you can repeatedly choose projects and partners that enable you to experience those sensitivities and persistently prioritize doing so above everything else.
The sensation when we're simply sitting there conversing and hours pass by, brilliance oozes out of us, and we forget to try is what we actually want things to feel like.
What do you do when you're confident that comes easily to you? What is it that successful people do unconsciously?
What if speaking engagements had the same feeling? or advertisements? Any events for teams? or even difficult discussions with a friend or spouse?
Knowing your sensitivities can help you understand what you feel more deeply than others and, in turn, what your natural talents are.
After that, you may decide if "connecting" over coffee or "thrilling" individuals with a compelling narrative would be more effective. You are aware of which would be more effective: organizing a "organized" meeting or leading a "creative" brainstorming session.
Instead of the other way around, you change the environment to meet your best talents. Knowing your natural talents can help you choose the best and simplest route to success.